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LEAVING THE NEST ” A Special letter to parents”

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Dear Parents,

This will be one of the most memorable times in the life of you and your student. How you handle this transition will determine the relationship you will or will not have with your student during these life-changing college years. Be there, but remember that this is their first step to independence, so give them the opportunity to begin this process with your support, not your dictatorship. Give them the benefit of your experience without making them feel guilty, if they don’t use it. Some students will take your advice, while others will have to make the mistakes and learn the lessons. But you had to go through this, too, and you, also, made mistakes.  They will need your wisdom and direction now more than ever. Balance is the key.

Below, I have listed steps that will make this transition smoother; these things helped me, as well as others, during our transitions. Enjoy this time!  You won’t get a second chance.

o    Pray  (It’s this connection that will let you sleep at night – well, most nights).

o    Do an itinerary for the trip to school.

o    Make a list of all friends and family in the area (in case of emergencies).

o    Introduce your student to the individuals that will be their support team while away at school (only those that desire to support).

o    Locate a church and visit the church with your student.

o    Introduce yourself and get the number to the Resident Assistance in the dorm, the financial aid officer and their assigned college counselor.

o    Don’t hesitate to call the president’s office, if necessary.

o    Be a good listener.

o    Always communicate – Do not disconnect:  It is critical that you remain in communication even through a challenging time.

o    Remember, they are at the age of accountability.  Help them to understand the responsibility that goes with freedom.

o    Don’t hesitate to remind them of the things they are to do. They are balancing a lot of tasks, and will forget every now and them, but be kind.

o    Give them enough space to feel independent but enough support to know you are in their corner – even when they make a mistake.

o    Remember, you have lived your life! This is theirs. Help them to become their own person and most important, enjoy their transformation into adulthood!

 

                Parental Unit

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“I PROMISE” A Parents Pledge

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A Parents Pledge  “I PROMISE”
As a student I was blessed to have the kind of parents that were committed to my success inside and outside of the classroom. Now, as an adult,  a mother of two, and an educator, I see just how important their personal commitment and promises were to my development as a successful, functioning human being. I wasn’t perfect, I made mistakes just as your students will, but knowing that you are there, on their team to help maneuver them through the most vital years of their life, will ensure their success and yours. I have listed below 10 promises I have made to guarantee my students success  from elementary to high school to give them a solid foundation for college,  I believe this  is a pledge every parent should make.  Great parents rock! So thanks for being awesome parents!
1)      I promise to set and follow a schedule. I promise to have a specific bedtime schedule.
Its no secret that students do much better when they know what is going to happen on a daily basis. There is a comfort and assurance to a set schedule that just can’t be beat. In addition to that, it allows you to be able to keep task with what your brilliant student is or should be doing.
Ex: Mom calls home from work. Mom says “it’s 4:00, t.v. and snack time is up; Its homework time.  Have it done and on the table when I get home…” now after a week or so of this, the student becomes accustomed to following the daily routine. Structure is something we use everyday in life, giving them a schedule and routine lets them learn this lesson young. Having a schedule helps me get things done in a timely manner
2)      I promise to plan and prepare healthy meals.
They say we are what we eat. And super sweet snacks, soda, juice with high fructose corn syrup, chips, candy etc. lead to not just hyper active kids, but slow thinkers. We become lethargic. Foods that are high in good protein, fiber, and potassium are a great place to start. We should all be eating five servings of fruits and vegetables a day, find creative ways to make sure they meet their requirements.
 Ex: an apple with breakfast, a fruit cup and salad for lunch, trail mix with nuts, or tofu etc.
 Fact: complex carbohydrates like red potatoes are an excellent source of energy and because you burn them off slowly, your energy will last quite a while. An entire school day for sure.
3)      I promise to pay close attention to the completion of homework.
Double checking homework is always necessary. Many students lose points because they don’t complete or hand in their homework. Double checking at the end of the night ensures that they have finished it and it is put away for class the following day.
4)      I promise to set goals with my children.
Setting goals is a great way to one, stay on task and two, allow your student to feel a great sense of accomplishment when they reach their goals and if by chance they do not, it will help them get focused and determined to reach them. With your help and support they will exceed them.
5)       I promise to get to know their friends.
Your students’ biggest influence is the world around them right now because they spend so much time away from you. Getting to know their world and the friends in it allows you to stay connected to your student, to help them make good decisions and if necessary, help them deal with peer pressure.
6)      I promise to find out what my kids are watching on TV. And setting parameters for shows and length of daily TV. time:
Social media steers the trends of our society and more importantly that of your students. Make sure the things they are feeding their brain don’t go against the lessons taught and moral code of your home.  There should be more book or brain activity time than there is TV. time at home. Books, puzzles, word games etc. it gives them the opportunity to have fun and entertain themselves while also boosting their mental stamina, problem solving ability, vocabulary, and patience.
7)       I promise to teach them how to lay their clothes out and prepare lunch at night.
This teaches preparation and the importance of being on time which comes in handy years later for job interviews, meetings etc. it also teaches independence, the beginning of healthy meal planning, and it takes some pressure off of you.
8)       I promise to make myself available and approachable to my child, that we might build trust.  
Your student should have the utmost confidence that you, their guardian will listen to them when they have a problem, concern or just need to feel that they are important to you.
9)      I promise to encourage my children daily as a person, as a student, and most of all as my phenomenally brilliant child
If you do not encourage your student, who else will? If you don’t build up their confidence while you have the opportunity to do so, who else will? No one, that is our job as parents. The world can be a very cold place and so before your student finds themselves in it, make sure you’ve equipped them with the kind of self-confidence they need to not allow people in life to make them think less of themselves or  ever give up on their goals and dreams
10)   I promise to assure my child that I will listen to them in regards to their teachers
Nobody is perfect and teachers are not always right. Don’t always take their word for everything. Get involved in their classes. Ask your student about their teachers and what they think of them. Ask them about their classes. Doing this routine daily will give you insight into who the teachers are and if an issue should arise with one, you already have a good idea of how to go to bat for your child. Be your students’ advocate. If you don’t, no one else will either.
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High School Seniors – Are You Prepared ?

Graduation is around the corner!!!! Yaaaaay!!! I’m sure you’re thinking you’ve waited all your life for this! And you have, but now here comes the REAL work.

Life – Part II : College

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How prepared are you?

Have you made a decision as to what college you will attend?

If so, have you taken care of your financial aid package? If not, be sure to schedule a meeting to see them once you get onto the campus.

Are you going away or are you staying close to home?

Will you need a plane ticket and possible hotel accommodations once you get there?

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